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Watch and Learn + Sweet and Savory Grits

3 Apr

Even when people can’t or won’t tell you directly, they will show you the type of relationship they want to have with you. That guy who says he just wants to be friends, but incessantly buys you presents and invites you for drinks – just the two of you. The chick who you really want to get to know as a friend, but who never bothers to reach out to you. And only minimally gives of herself when she does. The chick you’re dating who swears she’s ready for a relationship, but six months in still won’t invite you to her house, introduce you to her friends or open up: all perfect examples of people trying to show you what you mean to them and what place they’d like you to hold in their lives.

I had a friend who used to always tell me she didn’t call or text because she was busy. I called bullshit on her more times than I can count. It takes about two seconds to send a “Just thinking about you” text. This colorful gentleman made a video about using the busy excuse. Even a simple text can make someone’s day which is the exact opposite of going two weeks and not saying boo. I myself am learning not to use busy as an excuse. I’m also learning to let people know when I’m thinking of them. I used to think of people and never actually reach out. I didn’t have the emotional capacity to reach. I’m working on that. I’ve gotten so much better.

My point is really that we make time for the things we care about. Each and every day, we make conscious decisions to give ourselves to one thing or another. If someone is showing you that they’d rather give themselves to something – or someone – else, do yourself a favor, save yourself some heartache, and listen to them.

You should also listen to your belly. Because this is a food blog. And I’m the cook and I say you should. hehe My belly was telling me to commit a serious crime: mix sweet grits with savory grits.

SAY WHAT?!

I know. There’s no denying the fact that I love grits. I’ve written about the incessant struggle between sweet and savory grits in Mint and the Geographical Truce. Usually, I am all about the sweet grits. But after recently having had the most delicious savory grits, I had a hankering for a mix of the two.

Unlike some people, my taste buds were telling me exactly what they wanted from me, and for once, I listened. It was quite possibly the best decision I’ve made all week.

What I Used
Trader Joe’s Stone Ground White Grits
1 cup gouda cheese, shredded
1/2 cup raw sugar
1/2 – 1 tsp liquid smoke (depends on taste)

What I Did

I cooked the grits according to specifications, nothing fancy there. If you use someone else’s grits, 1. Don’t expect these to taste the same and 2. Still follow those someone’s else’s cooking directions. After the grits were done, I folded in the cheese, sugar and liquid smoke. Let them set for five minutes and enjoy! Oh so, so delicious. Even my roommate, who doesn’t generally eat anything sweet, liked these!